You have to find a way that you are approaching what is through a different vantage point. Most people look at their current state of affairs, and they say, "this is who I am". That's not who you are. That's who you were.

You see, if you look at your current state of affairs right now, let's say, for instance, that you don't have a lot of money in your bank account, or you don't have the relationship that you want, or your health and fitness isn't up to par, that's not who you are.

That's the residual outcome of your past thoughts and actions. So we're constantly living in this residue, if you will, of the thoughts and the actions we've taken in the past.

When you look at your current state of affairs and define yourself by that then you doom yourself to have nothing more than the same in the future. What can you do right now to begin to turn your life around?

I'll tell you two or three things. Start making a list of things to be grateful for.

Start with that, because this shifts your energy, it starts to shift your thinking. Where before this exercise you might be focusing on what you don't have, and you might be focusing on your complaints, and you might be focusing on whatever the problems are; when you do this exercise you start to go in a different direction, you start to be grateful for all the things that you feel good about.

Gratitude is absolutely the way to bring more into your life. Every man knows, that when his wife's appreciating him for the little things he does, what does he wanna do? He wants to do more.

It's always about the appreciation. It pulls things in, it attracts support. I've said for many years that whatever we think about and thank about, we bring about.

Because that's that feeling that you have to have, you know, and so for me, there's been such a powerful exercise every morning to get up and say "thank you".

And then I start running through what I'm grateful for as I'm going to brush my teeth
and do the things I do in the morning. And I'm not just thinking about that I'm doing some road routine but I'm putting it out there and I'm feeling the feelings of gratitude.

As soon as you start to feel differently about what you already have, you will start to attract more of the good things, more of the things you can be grateful for.

Because, if you look around and say, "well look, I don't have the car I want, I don't have the house I want, I don't have the health I want, I don't have the spouse I want..."

Back up. Back up. Those are all the things that you don't want.

Focus on what you already have that you're grateful for. And it might be, you have the eyes to watch this. It might be the clothes that you have.Yes, you might prefer something else and you might get something else pretty soon if you start feeling grateful for what you have.

I think everybody goes through times when they say, "oh man, things aren't working right" or "things are going bad". And there were some things going on in my family... and I found a rock.

And I'm just sitting here holding this rock, you might see me carrying around.I found a rock. I stuck it in my pocket.

And I said, "you know what, every time I touch this rock I'm gonna think of something that I'm grateful for.

And so every morning, when I get up in the morning, I pick it up off the dresser and put it in my pocket, and I go through the things that I am grateful for.

At night, what do you do? You empty your pocket and there it is again.And I've had some different experiences with that.

I've had some amazing experiences.I had a guy from South Africa.He saw me dropping it. He said "what is that"?

What's that? I explained it to him, so we started calling it the gratitude rock.

Gratitude rock. Two weeks later I got an e-mail from him from South Africa. He said, "my son is dying from a rare disease, it's a type of hepatitis".

He said, "would you send me three gratitude rocks?" There were just rocks I find off the street, you know, so I said, "sure". I had to make sure that the rocks were very special. And so I went out to the stream, looked, picked up the right rocks and sent them off to him.

Four or five months later I get an e-mail from him. He said, "my son's better, now he's doing terrific" and he said, "you need to know something" he said, "we've sold over a thousand rocks at $10 a piece as gratitude rocks, and we raised all this money for charity, thank you very much".

And so it's very important to be in an attitude of gratitude, as I call it. Another thing that I would suggest that you do right now to turn your life around, and this is so huge, that I can't find the words to describe just how powerful this can be for you...